#TRUTHTALK: My Struggle with Insecurity is REAL
Coming at you with my SECOND #TRUTHTALK video series! It would mean the WORLD to me if you subscribed to my channel!!
Here’s the thing. INSECURITY STINKS. That’s right, it certainly does, but that does not mean we are immune to it. If you are a human being, the chances are you have struggled with insecurity in some way, shape, or form in your life. Today I am coming to you with my PERSONAL battle with insecurity that I urge to fight daily. In our month of discovering a self love, it feels only fitting to come and talk about how we can practically battle insecurity so we can feel courage to STAND in our god given identities.
Mmm, so, WHAT in the world is insecurity, really?
The definition of insecurity is actually an uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence. When I look back at my life I can see insecurity as a thread right left and center. Being a 3 on the Enneagram, means that I am “the Achiever” and am 1,000% prone to being image conscious. As a 3 my basic fear is being worthless and my ultimate desire is to feel valuable. In short, 3’s struggle with what other’s think about them. It is top of mind.
CUE ALL sorts of insecurity fears.
There are many things I have been insecure about throughout the years, but I am going to highlight just some of the TOP ones that have been the biggest struggles for me. Because believe me, there is power in bringing your insecurities to the LIGHT.
-Body weight fluctuations
-My deep voice that sounds kinda manly
-Stretch marks & Cellulite- YIKES who likes those?
-My authority in speaking [working through that one still!]
-Stability in relationship with a man… does he really like me?
-Financial insecurity and shame
-My face- THIS ONE WAS HUGE.
-Acne! Adult acne SUCKS.
-Overly Feminine Style
-Approval of others
….just to name a FEW.
Struggling with insecurity is not necessarily something that we can conquer once and never have to look at it ever again. Rather the struggle is seriously REAL… I mean… SO REAL that I even am battling feeling insecure as I film this video!
So how do we battle this?! Insecurity is rooted in FEAR, but did you know that we were actually created WITHOUT fear based thinking? That’s right. We were actually wired for LOVE based in the beginning. Want to know how I know? Genesis.
“So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27.
And since God is LOVE, that means that WE were created for LOVE and in love. And what do we know about LOVE? That there is no fear in it. That’s riiiight, in 1 John is says that “there is NO fear in love, but perfect love CASTS out fear” 1 John 4:18
So in essence, FEAR is not natural, but is acquired through the way our society unfortunately works. The amazing Dr. Caroline Leaf says, “We literally have to learn the wrong way because the right way is natural & normal!”
So I think the first step in conquering insecurity is figuring out how to live in a LOVE based mentality a OVER a fear based mentality. If we are able to truly seek to take our thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ, we can tap into what it feels like to experience contentment and satisfaction with ourselves JUST as we are.
The book THE PERFECT YOU by Dr. Caroline Leaf actually transformed my life and helped me to grasp the idea that I am the ONLY one with the power to change my current mindset. Our lives are unique narratives shaped by different learnings and different experiences. A sunset will evoke specific emotions for me, and different emotions for you BASED on our experiences with sunsets and our past life experiences. The only way to TRULY step into freedom from insecurity is to tap into our current thought process and work to REWIRE our own self narrative. It isn’t the easiest, but it CAN be done.
“Only YOU can be your special kind of YOUNESS” Dr. Caroline Leaf
If we can actually grasp the TRUTH about ourselves, and understand WHY our mind tends to react the way it does based on certain situations, we can actually start seeing the world from LOVE instead of FEAR.
This is the #TRUTH that I have learned about insecurity. If my own self narrative is depricating, I won’t stand a chance in conquering what the world thinks about me.
On a practical level I have come up with some ways that I have used to fight insecurity daily.
HOW TO FIGHT INSECURITY!
- Write down your insecurities. Bring them to the light. Stare them directly in the face and start on mission to conquer them.
- Start seeking a deep and true LOVE for yourself, your flaws, your mistakes, your quirks… they are a part of your YOUNESS.
- Realize your triggers that propell you to negative mindsets and set boundaries to ward off COMPARISON with all your might. Don’t enter situations that you know will be a trigger for you to seep back into unhealthy mindset of lies about yourself.
- Don’t do things for the sake of what others think about you. People pleasing has never gotten us very far, has it? Stay in your lane and focus on what God has called YOU to… greatness!
- Surround yourself with life giving people and things. Let the daily influences in your life reflect the narrative you want to believe about YOURSELF.
- Forgive yourself and move on. You will make mistakes, but they will be redeemed. Believe that to your core and press on strong.
I BELIEVE IN YOU GUYS and want you to know I am with you on this struggle to FIGHT insecurity!