Hello love friends + readers! I hope you are having the most lovely of weeks! Today I want to talk with you about something that has hit me over the head this week like an iron pan: GRACE. Not just grace, but the lack there of it. So I’d like to ask you loves today, WHERE is the grace?
Have you ever been in a situation where something doesn’t go as planned, + your FIRST instinct is to immediately assume the worst? Don’t sit there shaking your head no right now…just about ALL of us have done that! But my question today for you all is, why do we do this? When it boils down to it, we are basically assuming the worst of the other person, or even worse, of ourselves.
Where is the grace?
Let me get real with you loves for a minute. I will be extremely honest in that sometimes when something goes wrong I immediately place the blame on myself. I have LITTLE grace for myself. My first reaction can sometimes by to overly apologize + do whatever I can to fix the situation immediately. But what is really happening here? More often than not this is ME trying to be the ultimate people pleaser. And worse, it is me not always respecting myself enough to know that sometimes things are not always my fault.
Again, where is the grace?
I only say this loves, in the hopes to relate to all of you as well. How often do you find yourself apologizing just for the sake of apologizing? Or trying to fix a situation that was completely out of your hands? Often times what I find is reaction results from someone who likes to be in control [aka me] who suddenly is not in control anymore. In order to quickly mend this situation, the person takes matters into their hands + suddenly tries to mend every aspect of the situation to their liking. This is not only slightly controlling, but it can also be veryyyyy unhealthy.
You see, again I ask, where is the grace?
So how do we mend this pattern of having a lack of grace for ourselves + others? PHEW, is that ever a big question! It is going to take more than just this blog post to go into all of those details, but for now I want to encourage in the simplest way possible. Pursue love for yourself. You see, when you have LOVE for yourself, you stop immediately assuming the world is out to get you. Your first instinct shifts from negative thoughts about what you COULD have done better to instead knowing that you are a wonderful, valuable person who is WORTHY of love + respect.
In essence, what this realllyyyyy at the core boils down to, is having a love so solid + sustaining that when the world pricks you with its hurts, you immediately do not take it upon yourself to absorb the rejection. Instead you repel it. Your flesh goes from being a sponge to becoming a shield of protection, a protection of all encompassing, fierce LOVE for yourself.
The BEST part about this all my loves is that we don’t even have to do anything at all to be loved. Jesus loves us JUST the way we are, right now, in this very moment. Broken, bruised, selfish, harsh, + hurtful. He loves us anyway. Because HIS love is greater than anything we can ever even comprehend. It is a love SO vast + so sustaining that it is nearly impossible to picture. So… what if we just tapped into that even just a bit?
““My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:8-9
Even when we are WEAK, His grace is sufficient. His love is ever-enduring. You see loves, we absolutely without fail need the constant pursuit of GRACE so that we can protect our hearts from wounds that have no place being there. So even when we are wrong, Jesus’s grace still covers us. His love still endures.
“To LOVE God is to cooperate with His grace” -Lysa TerKeurst
Today my dears I want to charge you with finding the GRACE for yourself, that you very well deserve. You are a lovely, wonderful, valuable, uniquely crafted, gorgeous human being that is worthy of a love SO great. So today, pursue love for yourself. Seek out + tap into the unending ocean of God’s great love for you so that you will truly know from the inside out that you are radiant in every way possible. This old way of thinking can be thrown away, + instead a new first instinct can be found…. that of grace.
Today, choose love. Choose grace.
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