Ladies [+ gents if you are out there!], today I want to talk about something that resonates deep in my soul. It is not a topic that is fun to talk about, but one that is SO important to face. Not exactly my favorite topic, but one that we ALL need to confront. The topic of [drumroll please…] REJECTION! I recently started reading a book called Uninvited by Lisa TerKeurst. Man oh man does she ever just lay it out there! Confession: I am only 2 chapters deep, but alas endless pages of notes have already been taken!

One harsh reality I had to face today while reading this book was that for years in the past, I was expecting to have stability in my life although my identity was broken to pieces due to rejection. It is a fact of life that we experience rejection every single day of our lives. Sometimes [if we are not careful], this rejection can build up + up so much so that when some sort of new rejection comes through, it touches on vulnerability we have already experienced + hence it hurts that much more.

For example…LADIES, do you ever find yourself getting overly sensitive about something a loved one says in such a way that you blow your response out of proportion? Unless you have never experienced the side-effects of PMS, likely you have experienced this multiple times, ha. We end up interpreting what the other person said way more emotionally than was ever intended, simply because it was a trigger from a a past rejection that we never dealt with.

OR [+ this happens to me far too often], Do you ever have your heart set on something to do, + when those plans unexpectedly fall through you feel rejected I some way. In those moments, somehow I sometimes find myself feeling just off the rest of the day. I can’t seem to shake the fact that all I wanted to do was that one thing I was so excited about.

As the lovely Lisa would say:

“Rejection isn’t just an emotion. It’s a message that’s sent to the core of who we are, causing us to believe lives about ourselves, others, and GOD.”

Say whaaaaaaa??? Come again?!?! That’s right. She goes on to say:

“Rejection steals the best of who I am by reinforcing the WORST of what’s been said to me”

PHEWIE! I am already sweating just thinking about these truths about how rejection has crippled my present emotions, reactions, + thoughts. The beautiful part though about it all, is there IS a way to overcome current + past, deep rooted rejection. It is time for us to recognize that our core beliefs are what should be holding us up even when life around us is crumbling. God’s goodness cannot be assessed by how we feel in just one particular time. Feelings are fleeting + deceiving, + the more we cling onto these feelings, the more rejection sinks into affecting the CORE message of who we are. What is not fleeting, is the truths we find in looking at the core of who we are through what God has to say about us.

Last quote + then we move on for today:

“I’m going to stop flirting with the unstable things of this world so I can fall completely in love with You. I am loved. I am held. I am Yours. I am forever Yours.”

I will end it on that note, can’t wait to talk with you lovelies further!

Bisous Bisous -K

Jacket: Vintage | Skirt: Nordstrom | Top: H&M | Shoes: Asos [old, similar here] | Sunnies: Linda Farrow

Photos by Kat Hennessey

3 thoughts on “LET’S TALK ABOUT IT

  1. Hello hun, I like your title and your play on words…. you wrote a interesting post..
    For me I am quite sensitive by nature to other peoples words especially if I love them or they mean alot to me. I have also realised that even someone I love can say harsh things or make you feel rejected out of anger because that is how they feel at that moment and it actually has nothing to do with me.

    I also think if you take offence to rejection which is a normal human trait means you are giving permission to another person to make you feel bad about your self and that is not good, their opinion or judgement means nothing because god doesnt do that, he just loves and that is what counts 🙂 xx

  2. I loved this post.. it touched some kind of nerve. Just like how you talked about it on Instagram, but these quotes are so profound. I love how you paired the article with these super girlboss looking photos of you… remind me of the fact that in order to become true boss ladies, we have to learn how to manage rejection and emotions, and not let these things get the better of us. It’s sounds all to familiar, what loved ones say about us or when our plans fall through… the feeling of rejection is so real!! Keep reading this book.. I’m curious about your insights after you’re done!

    Jessica || Cubicle Chic

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